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विकसित मन ही दोस्ती कर सकता है || आचार्य प्रशांत, युवाओं के संग (2014)
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Friendship
Maturity
Immaturity
Understanding
Love
Protection
Ego
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses the questioner's confusion regarding his father's advice on friendship. He explains that the father is not wrong but is speaking incompletely. Using a movie analogy, he states that the father is telling the 'U-rated' part of the story, suitable for children, but not the 'A-rated' part, which is for adults. The father perceives the questioner as a child and withholds the 'adult story' until he proves he is mature enough to understand it. The first part of the story, which the father tells, is that a child needs protection because the world is dangerous. A child doesn't know what is good or bad for them, like the difference between a snake and a rope, or an electrical socket and a toy. Therefore, when the father advises against making friends, he is essentially warning that the world is dangerous for someone who is immature and cannot discern their own well-being. For an immature person who doesn't understand the true meaning of friendship, any friendship formed will be flawed. Such a person might befriend those who provide entertainment or join them in mischief, mistaking them for true friends. These friendships, based on immaturity, will inevitably lead to trouble. Therefore, the father's advice to stay away from such friendships is correct, given the questioner's current state of immaturity. Acharya Prashant clarifies that true friendship and love are for mature, developed minds. Friendship requires a deep understanding of each other, which an immature person is incapable of. Only adults can truly be friends. He points out the ego in thinking, 'I am wise, but my father doesn't understand,' and urges the questioner to introspect on his own maturity. He advises the questioner to focus on becoming mature. Once he blossoms into a mature individual, his father's perspective will change, and the whole world will recognize his maturity, just as a flower's fragrance spreads without any announcement. The real goal is to blossom, not just to make others believe you have.