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Valentine’s Day Wisdom [5 Indian Dating Secrets] || Acharya Prashant
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Love
Sex
Conditioning
Marriage
Companionship
Choice
Understanding
Free Will
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Acharya Prashant explains that since sex is one of the strongest drives and energies in our lives, it represents our values all the more. The person you choose to bare your body to is the person that best reflects what you value in life. He questions the longevity of sexual pleasure, stating that it leaves one with the need for a shower and a stained bedsheet. In contrast, spending a day and a night with the right person can leave you with something that might last a lifetime. True love, he says, always involves three: you, me, and the sky. When considering marriage as a long-term commitment, one must ask what exactly they have seen in the other person that is worth committing to, so that they are not ashamed of what they have done. He describes modern dating as a bad game where two parties play pre-scripted roles. You are not your true self, but a product manufactured by your body and trained by society. Similarly, the other person is a physical product of their bodily design and a mental product of social training. When two such persons meet, it is not a meeting of two individuals. He questions how love can exist when there is no individual agency in the first place, as both are just playing roles. A conditioned being cannot really have the free will to love. When two conditioned beings believe they have fallen in love, the worst downside is that when you are conditioned, love becomes totally impossible. He has been interested in young people taking to meditativeness, wisdom, literature, scriptures, and spirituality because, without that understanding, one can have no fire in their life. Even if there is some fire, it will be the type that reduces you to ashes; it doesn't work for you, it just burns you down. Every single choice is an opportunity won or lost; life is a constant set of testing choices, like a multiple-choice question exam. Answering rightly elevates you, while answering wrongly degrades you. The question concerning sex has a lot of weightage, and answering it wrongly makes recovery very difficult. It's not that people need to be saved from marriage, but from themselves. If marriage is companionship, there is a possibility of a great marriage. If marriage is just another name for great companionship, it is wonderful. However, we often do not know the right company, which is why marriage is often, almost always, the hell that it is. It's not one particular institution people need to be saved from. If one has understanding and love, then one could be possibly, beautifully married. But the occurrence of understanding and love in an individual is just so rare, and therefore, good marriages are equally rare.