Acharya Prashant explains the difference between true love and false love. He states that in love, you are not drawn to someone because you find them pleasing, but because you desire their well-being. If love is true, you are not attracted to someone because they seem good, appealing, beautiful, or lovely. In true love, you are well aware of the other person's flawsтАФyou know the holes in their plate, the stains on their character, and the weaknesses in their mind and conduct. Despite knowing all these imperfections, you still move towards them. From a worldly perspective, true love has no reason, whereas false love is driven by the desire for pleasure and enjoyment. In true love, you are fully aware that the other person has numerous flaws and disorders, yet you are still drawn to them. The ordinary worldly mind finds this confusing, questioning why one would approach someone with so many imperfections. The speaker explains that you don't go towards someone because their current state will bring you happiness. Instead, you go to them because you recognize that their current state is a lie, a bondage, a prison they are trapped in. The purpose of true love is to help free the other person from this prison. It is not about finding them lovely as they are; that would be exploitation. The speaker clarifies that this doesn't mean you hate or insult them, but that you see beyond their current, flawed individuality, which is as worthless as your own. True love is not about being impressed by someone's skills, cleverness, beauty, or attractiveness. It is about recognizing that their current state is a lie and knowing that there must be a truth to them. This love is for that truth, because love is for the Truth itself. Lies are individual, but Truth is one. The desire in true love is to see the other person become what they can beтАФto see the flower bloom and the bird fly as high as it can. Love has eyes; it is connected to criticism (aalochana), which means to see clearly. Love is not false, cunning, or sycophantic. A true lover is one who stands with you in your real progress. People often say they can't find true love, but the reality is they cannot bear it. We don't want love; we want delusion and deception.
