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Indian weddings - why? || Acharya Prashant, in conversation (2022)
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Pursuit of Happiness
Indian Wedding
Inner Wellness
Ignorance
Compensation
Population
Reproduction
Culture
Description

Acharya Prashant discusses the nature of happiness and celebration, prompted by his seekers' observation of a large Indian wedding. One of the seekers, Julius from Finland, recounts mistaking the wedding for a sporting event due to its scale, with hundreds of people, numerous food stalls, a stage with a band, and an overwhelming focus on eating. Acharya Prashant connects this to the pursuit of happiness, explaining that there are two distinct scenarios. The first is when one is internally joyful, and dressing up or celebrating is a natural expression of that inner wellness. At times, this joy might even lead one to want to wear no clothes at all. The second scenario is when there is no real inner thing, and putting on jewelry and nice clothes becomes a substitute, a compensation for the lack of inner joy. He elaborates that at such events, where real joy and love are absent, even for the couple on stage, people fill themselves up with external things like food—naan, biryani, kofta, and various cuisines. This connects to the broader theme of how people seek happiness. He points out that it's not an East versus West issue, as we are all the same in our ignorance, though the manifestations of this ignorance may differ. Your ignorance looks different from my ignorance, just as our skin colors differ, but fundamentally, all ignorance is one, just as Truth is one. The East fools itself in one way, the West in another, but both are fooling themselves. Acharya Prashant further explains that the ability to host such extravagant events with cheap labor is an unfortunate luxury in India, stemming from a large, poor population. He links this to the country's demographic situation, which he calls a 'demographic dividend' in economic terms. He criticizes the societal pressure, especially on women, to reproduce, noting that for the average Indian woman, a significant portion of her life is spent giving birth to and raising kids. This obsession with reproduction, without giving due respect to more important things in life, leads to a joyless existence for many. This lack of inner fulfillment is then compensated for through extravagant displays like weddings, which become the primary mode of celebration.