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कामुकता और पछतावा || आचार्य प्रशांत, वेदांत महोत्सव (2022)
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Sexuality
Consciousness
Body-identification
Relationship
Guilt
Maturity
Right Choice
Spirituality
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a questioner who feels guilty for having a sexual encounter despite being advised against it. The speaker begins by clarifying that the questioner is a 'bad student' not because he violated a rule, but because he never understood the teaching in the first place. He explains that a human being must have relationships, and the wise have always said that any relationship at the physical level should be considered sexual. The common view sees sex as a mere act, but from the perspective of knowledge, sex is a level of consciousness. A person who lives identified with their body is constantly living a sexual life, regardless of whether they engage in the physical act of sex. This applies to all social and familial relationships. Acharya Prashant elaborates that since we are born at the physical level, our lives and relationships inevitably start from a sexual, or body-centric, basis. He uses the analogy of being born from the 'mud' of the womb, and the purpose of life is to wash this mud off. Therefore, feeling guilty about a single sexual act is pointless when one's entire existence is lived at the sexual (body-identified) level. He points out that even the question being asked is sexual because it arises from this body-centric consciousness. The speaker gives an example of a father obsessed with his factory and a son obsessed with his girlfriend, stating they are both at the same sexual level, just with different objects of desire. The practical advice offered is not to avoid relationships but to make the right choice. Since physical attraction is natural, one should choose a partner or an object of attraction that helps elevate their consciousness. A correct relationship, though it may begin with the body, ultimately transcends to the level of consciousness, while a wrong relationship starts with the body and only sinks deeper into its swamp. He provides a test: ask yourself if you would still want to be with the person if physical gratification were not an option. If the answer is no, the relationship is not right for you. A true relationship is one where you can be with the person even without physical satisfaction, and it still brings joy.