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Let your relationship not be based on need || Acharya Prashant, on J.Krishnamurti (2017)
Acharya Prashant
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Aloneness
Relationship
Neediness
Atman
Exploitation
Upanishads
Dependency
Morality
Description

Acharya Prashant explores the nature of relationship and aloneness, starting with Jiddu Krishnamurti's assertion that existence is inherently relational. He explains that human life is typically defined by neediness and dependency, where every thought and action is contextual and reliant on something else. Aloneness, in contrast, is defined as having a point within oneself that is not needy or dependent on any external object or person. This central point, referred to as the Atman or the source, is the only true foundation for strength and freedom. Most human relationships are driven by exploitation because they are based on fulfilling personal needs. Acharya Prashant argues that when we claim to love someone, we often only love what we obtain through them; if the returns stop, the relationship turns into conflict or hatred. He posits that only in a state of aloneness can a relationship be truly unconditional, stable, and non-violent. Without this internal independence, peace is merely situational and subservient to self-interest, leading to a life of constant acceleration toward needs and braking through moral duties. Finally, the speaker critiques modern spiritual concepts of 'sharing' as often being just another form of need or gossip. He distinguishes between the 'sharing' found in social adjustments and the true sharing exemplified by the nameless Rishis of the Upanishads. Real sharing is purposeless, nameless, and arises from the unmanifest becoming manifest, rather than from a psychological or physical necessity to offload something. True relationship and sharing can only occur when one is complete within themselves and no longer uses others as 'Band-Aids' for their own wounds.