Acharya Prashant responds to a question from a PhD student about the societal pressure on educated, independent women in India to marry based on superficial criteria like looks and horoscope matching. The questioner cites the example of a female surgeon whose well-educated parents are filtering potential grooms based on whether they are 'manglik' (an astrological condition), ignoring more important qualities. Acharya Prashant advises the woman to relieve herself of the obligation to handle such a situation, stating that one only handles a situation they are in; otherwise, they should just drop it or move past it. He finds it amusing that a qualified, mature, and financially independent surgeon would outsource the critical decision of choosing a life partner to her parents or society. He uses an analogy of a powerful elephant asking small animals like rabbits to fetch its food to illustrate the absurdity. His core advice is to be self-sufficient ('aatmanirbhar') and to 'Do It Yourself' (DIY), a principle he extends to all young people. He explains that by delegating this personal responsibility, one loses the right to complain about the outcome. If one encounters undesirable choices, such as lustful men or matches based on horoscopes, the solution is to walk away, not to engage and then complain. He emphasizes that one must take matters into their own hands. He further states that all wisdom is founded on the right to choose, and it is a sad sight to see an educated woman acting helpless and choiceless, especially when she is empowered by education and supported by laws that are favorable to women. Acharya Prashant points out that many highly educated individuals are 'internally uneducated' and live in an 'emotional darkness' because they lack self-knowledge. This internal ignorance leads to suboptimal life decisions, bad relationships, and destroyed careers. He asserts that spirituality ('Adhyatma' or Vedanta) is a woman's best friend, as it is the only source of true internal freedom and empowerment. When the questioner mentions that she is doing this for her parents' happiness, he clarifies that true love for them is not about catering to their conditioned happiness but about bringing them sense and wisdom. Goodness, he explains, is the elevation of consciousness and liberation, which is different from fleeting happiness. He concludes by questioning the inconsistency of being self-sufficient in professional matters like surgery but not in the more important personal matter of marriage, attributing this confusion to the absence of a spiritual environment.