Acharya Prashant explains that the issue is not about dealing with family members, but about one's relationship with their own erstwhile self. It was the previous self that entered into these relationships, and the current struggle arises because the new self does not know how to deal with the remnants of this past self. The problem is not what to do with them, but what to do with oneself; it is a matter of one's own entanglement. If one could fully dissociate from their old self, the problem would cease to exist, as the relationship was with that old self. The persistence of the problem indicates that the change is not yet complete. The speaker clarifies that spiritual growth is not about breaking away from the past, but rather a process of sublimation, like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. Using the analogy of a soiled handkerchief, he explains that the spiritual process is about cleaning the cloth, not replacing it. What is carried forward is the same cloth, but without the impurities. Similarly, a spiritual seeker must carry forward their relationships, but minus the impurities, retaining what is real and clean while expunging what is not. The foundation for this process is compassion. Just as one has compassion for oneself and seeks to end personal suffering, which is the very reason for seeking spiritual progress, the same compassion must be extended to others. This means avoiding two extremes: one is pampering and tolerating a toxic relationship out of attachment, and the other is inhumanly dumping them for a seemingly higher spiritual goal. One cannot truly break away from the past, as the body and its history are carried forward. The correct path, therefore, is to reform the relationship. This reform can be drastic and may involve discipline, pain, and tears, but the intention must always be the welfare of the other. The relationship is not to be ended but transformed. The speaker concludes that one must neither pamper nor drop others, but in compassion, reform them.