Acharya Prashant finds it amusingly stupid to not truly want something and then get depressed upon not getting it. He posits that if you had heartfully wanted something, there is a great probability you would have obtained it. The fact is, you were likely pushed or drifted into it, knowing nothing else to do. Some unconscious type of desire pushed you towards a particular target or object. Your heart, consciousness, and discretion were never truly in it, and that is the primary reason you don't get it. The speaker explains that the kind of energy needed to uplift life can only arise from a loving core. In some sense, it is only love that is very hard to defeat. What is called a normal desire is very easy to defeat; for instance, if a salesman displays something more attractive, your desire immediately flips. This does not apply to love, because love involves consciousness. You have chosen something after due discretion, knowing that the thing is indispensable. It's not a random whim or fetish; it's a thing of the heart. You know yourself, you know what you need, and you have to go after it. Mostly, your rejections are worth celebrating. They were needless burdens and responsibilities put upon you by authoritarian and deceptive forces. The problem does not lie in defeat, failure, or rejection, but in the choice of the goal. The question has to be: where are your goals coming from? The quality of your choice depends on the quality of your being, the chooser within. If you are inwardly asleep, all your choices will arise from very nebulous, vague criteria. They would not be choices in the real sense of the word, but like the toss of a dice—a blind toss where anything can show up. You have not chosen something; random stuff is happening to you. In biological life, there is only randomness. In a conscious life, there is conscious choice arising from a single criterion: freedom, betterment, liberation, and growth. Questions like, "Is this making me better?", "Is this widening and deepening my consciousness?", "Am I learning something from this?", "Am I becoming more fearless out of this?" should determine the choice. When your choices come from these criteria, you can take defeats in your stride. It's a lifelong journey, a project so humongous it can never get over. The project has to be an eternal one.