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Relationships
Multiple Partners
Consciousness
Inner Void
Fulfillment
Spiritual Urge
Self-inquiry
Wisdom
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Acharya Prashant explains that the question is not about having one partner versus multiple partners, but whether any of these partnerships are any good. If a person or a group of people could truly give you what would fulfill your life, you would be unstoppable in your pursuit of them. However, most flings are blind attempts to get from people what they cannot give, using ways that cannot reach the desired destinations. The issue of multiple partners has an obvious sexual connotation, but whether one relates sexually to one person or many, the question remains: will sex give you what you want? Having sex with ten people or with one person ten times will not get you what you really set out to get. Therefore, those who stick to one partner in fidelity need not feel any moral superiority over those engaged in what he calls the "internet of relationships." Both are failing in their attempt. Both want something very deep, but they are trying to get that deep something using very shallow means. The body is a very shallow way to get that which your consciousness desperately craves. All relationships are deeply an attempt to fill an inner void. The consciousness is trembling, wounded, incomplete, and lacks its own center. Therefore, it stumbles from place to place, knocking from door to door, hoping to get some kind of relief. Having multiple partners represents feeble and fruitless knocks on several doors. However, this does not mean that knocking on just one door is better. It merely means that whether you knock on one door or several, you will return disappointed because you will not get what you want through the physical or sexual route. If you are a serial relater, you must tell yourself that you have a spiritual urge, not a physical one. Therefore, you should stop the nonsensical method of looking for the ultimate in some man or woman. You will have to find it using other means, such as in wisdom literature, a deep understanding of life, and a love that is far more inclusive and pervasive. One must sit down with oneself and honestly ask, "What is it that I really want?" Once you receive the answer, you must act on that understanding.