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अतीत को लेकर पछतावा || आचार्य प्रशांत, वेदांत महोत्सव ऋषिकेश में (2022)
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Parenthood
Upbringing
Childhood Trauma
Ignorance
Responsibility
Self-Transformation
Love
Nature
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Acharya Prashant explains that the questioner's situation is, to some extent, a predetermined and universal phenomenon. He states that nature has designed humans to marry and have children at a young age, typically between 24 and 32, a time when most people lack deep understanding. He points out that it is not the fault of individuals but a consequence of this natural design. When parents are young, energetic, but also shallow and ignorant, everything they do, even with good intentions, can be harmful to their child. The questioner's remorse stems from overt misbehavior, but the speaker emphasizes that the problem is not limited to this. Even the 'good' things parents do can be poisonous for the child because the parents themselves are unaware. The speaker notes that the questioner is fortunate to realize the harm after 20 years, as most parents never do. They often refuse to accept that they have done a fatal injustice to their child because it hurts their ego. Accepting this requires immense love and honesty, which most parents lack. They prefer to believe they have provided a good upbringing. The speaker asserts that the most exploited class of beings is children, and the injustice done to them is immense. He explains that those who are truly capable of giving a child the right nourishment and education often do not have children, while those who are most eager to have them are often the least capable of providing a proper upbringing. As a solution, Acharya Prashant advises that what happened in the past cannot be changed. The remedy for today is to bring the best and highest to the daughter. He suggests supporting her professional aspirations and allowing her to take an 'open flight' in life. In her personal life, he recommends introducing her to high literature. He urges the questioner, who is already a father, to now try to be a guru to his daughter by initiating conversations that can improve a young person's life. He concludes by stating that becoming a parent does not automatically confer greatness; it must be earned through immense effort. Giving a child the right upbringing means changing one's own life, as one cannot raise a child correctly while remaining unchanged. This is a great responsibility, and failing in it is a crime against humanity, as the quality of the future generation depends on it.