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शादी की उम्र हो रही है, पर रिश्ते पसंद नहीं आ रहे || आचार्य प्रशांत, आर.डी.वी.वी. के साथ (2023)
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2 years ago
Marriage
Societal Pressure
Purpose of Life
Compulsion
Freedom
Self-development
Love
Truth
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a young man's anxiety about reaching the marriageable age of 28 and not finding a suitable partner. The speaker begins by questioning the very concept of a 'marriageable age,' explaining that linking marriage to a specific age reduces a person to their physical body. He argues that if one's life decisions are dictated by the body's timeline, it signifies a strange state of helplessness. He reassures the questioner that not liking the proposals is not the problem; the real issue would be accepting an unsuitable match out of compulsion or unconsciousness. He warns that the pressure of age can lead to making such a compromised decision. The speaker observes that society, family, and media have elevated marriage to the status of an undeniable, omnipresent truth, making it seem like an inevitable life event similar to birth and death. However, he asserts that marriage is neither inherently good nor bad, but simply a small aspect of life that has been given disproportionate importance. He advises against being overly worried, pointing out that the age for many other significant life experiences—like learning new skills, sports, travel, or studying literature and philosophy—is also passing, yet these are often ignored. He highlights that this societal pressure is even more intense for women, who are often expected to remain dependent on male relatives throughout their lives. Acharya Prashant contends that the purpose of life is not merely to find a partner and start a family, which he describes as the common person's primary goal. He emphasizes that love is about giving freedom, not creating bondage. A brother's true duty, he explains, is to empower his sister with education and courage so she can make her own life decisions, rather than trying to determine her future for her. Love, he says, is about helping another person grow, develop their potential, and be free. He concludes that marriage should not be a life goal but a possible event that may occur with a suitable companion on one's journey. A marriage entered into out of compulsion is a gateway to hell, whereas one based on love and mutual consent, without pressure, has a chance of being beautiful. He advises focusing on life's higher goals, and if marriage is to happen, it will happen in its own time.