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Why is a weak man deserted even by his loved ones? || Acharya Prashant, on Bhaj Govindam (2016)
Acharya Prashant
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Ego
Comparison
Relationships
Exploitation
Self-sufficiency
Truth
Fear of separation
Profit
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that human affection is often conditional, lasting only as long as a person is physically fit or useful. He describes the ego as a needy, incomplete entity that acts like a beggar, seeking out those who appear to have what it lacks. This sense of deficiency is born from comparison; by comparing oneself to others in terms of strength, knowledge, or beauty, the ego concludes it is lacking and seeks a partner to fill that void. Consequently, the ego only values others for the profit or benefit they provide. The speaker asserts that relationships founded on specific reasons or needs are inherently fragile. When the underlying reason for attraction—such as wealth, status, or physical appearance—fades, the relationship inevitably weakens or dissolves. He characterizes these as exploitative business deals where both parties seek to gain something from the other. Such associations are marked by fear, specifically the fear of separation, because the individuals involved depend on the other to maintain their self-image or fulfill their perceived needs. In contrast, Acharya Prashant describes a real relationship as one that is reasonless and seasonless. Such a bond is based on truth and provides a peace that requires no masks or pretenses. In a true relationship, there is no fear of separation because the individuals recognize their own inherent self-sufficiency and strength. He advises against using comparison to judge one's self-worth, as it leads to perpetual insecurity. Instead, one should remember the total or the truth to find genuine security and relate to others without the motive of exploitation.