Acharya Prashant addresses the fear of losing loved ones, explaining that this fear stems from attachment, not love. He states that we have known attachment, which is the act of getting attached to something, but we have not truly known love. The fear we feel for our loved ones, the worry that something might happen to them, is a product of this attachment. We are deeply concerned about what might happen to them tomorrow, but we fail to honestly ask if our relationships with them are healthy in the present moment. The present is what is alive, yet we are preoccupied with the future. He illustrates this with examples. A man worries about what will happen to his wife and children after his death and buys insurance, but does he ever examine his relationship with them today? A father accumulates wealth for his son's future, but what is his relationship with his son today? He quotes a proverb: "If the son is worthy, why accumulate wealth? If the son is unworthy, why accumulate wealth?" This implies that one should focus on the son's character now, which requires love. Since we don't have love, we find a cheap substitute: worrying about the future. If there were love, it would be evident in the present moment. Acharya Prashant explains that love does not worry about tomorrow because it is intelligent and knows that tomorrow emerges from today. Love is about being fully immersed in the present. If today is beautiful, there is no need to worry about tomorrow. Worry is proof that there is no love in the relationship, only attachment. Love and attachment are opposites. If you have to worry about someone, you are attached to them, not in love with them. Love is free from the anxiety and imagination of the future, while attachment is filled with worry, fear, conflict, and violence.
