Acharya Prashant explains that one cannot be free from the sorrow that comes from a source while still holding on to the pleasure derived from it. He addresses the questioner's issue of facing aggression from others after trying to improve her life. He states that people feel they have the right to shout at or threaten someone because that person has given them that right. This authority is not given for free; it is granted because one is deriving some benefit from them. To reclaim one's life, the first step is to wash one's hands of whatever benefits are being received from these relationships. Using an analogy, he explains that if you discover your neighbor's gifts are from ill-gotten wealth, your first moral duty is not just to stop accepting future gifts, but to return everything you have already taken. Otherwise, any attempt to correct or complain about them is hypocritical and will be ineffective. Similarly, if you try to explain spiritual truths to others while your transactional relationship with them remains unchanged, they will not take you seriously. They know from experience that you are still dependent on them, whether for financial or emotional support. The proof of genuine understanding is a change in one's life, which leads to a change in relationships, and the proof of a changed relationship is a change in the give-and-take. The speaker advises that the right to discipline you should be given only to someone truly deserving, not to just anyone from whom you seek benefits. Spirituality, he clarifies, is not about surrendering to the lowly people in our lives; it is first about standing firm and rebelling against that which is wrong. Surrender is the final step, reserved only for the highest truth. He urges the questioner to reduce her needs and dependency on others. The way to live is to distribute and give to the world as much as possible, and if not, to at least stop taking or accumulating from it.