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Do love and attachment go together? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2015)
Acharya Prashant
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Attachment
Love
Fulfillment
Memory
Timelessness
Relationship
Freedom
Truth
Description

Acharya Prashant uses the story of an illiterate woman and her lover's letters to explain the fundamental difference between attachment and love. He describes how the woman, unable to read the letters herself, became intensely attached to the physical envelopes, carrying them everywhere as a substitute for her absent lover. This attachment was born out of a lack of fulfillment and the absence of the real person. Once the letters were read and the lover eventually returned, the need to hold onto the physical objects vanished. Acharya Prashant explains that attachment is merely a promise of something yet to happen, whereas love is the presence of the real thing itself. Attachment is always directed toward objects, the physical, and the material, and it is rooted in time, memory, and the past. He further clarifies that while attachment is a 'fake' substitute for love, it serves as a useful indicator of a person's underlying urge for the real thing. If one finds themselves easily attached to people or objects, it signifies a deep desire for love and fulfillment. However, attachment can become a trap if one mistakes it for the ultimate goal. True love requires valuing freedom and truth, and it exists in a state of timelessness where memories and images of the past do not interfere with the present. Acharya Prashant concludes that staying in a relationship based solely on attachment—which is just the result of spending time together—will never lead to depth or the 'climax of love.' One must move beyond the 'letters' to meet the 'lover.'