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Aloneness is the desire,destination & death of loneliness || Acharya Prashant,on Khalil Gibran(2015)
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Loneliness
Aloneness
Kahlil Gibran
Sorrow
Duality
Fulfillment
Relationship
Description

Acharya Prashant begins by reading a quote from Kahlil Gibran: "Solitude has soft, silky hands, but with strong fingers, it grasps the heart and makes it ache with sorrow. Solitude is the ally of sorrow, as well as a companion of spiritual exaltation." He clarifies that in this context, solitude does not stand for aloneness but for the craving of the mind to reach aloneness, which is loneliness. This provides an opportunity to explore the relationship between loneliness and aloneness. Loneliness is defined as the sense that "I am, but I don't really have company." It is the feeling of being a fragment, separate from the rest of the world. This fragmented self believes that a relationship with others, particularly a few special individuals, will bring contentment and peace. The lonely mind, defining itself as a separate, individual entity with its own self-interests and definitions of security, is constantly looking for something outside itself to feel complete. This search is endless, as there are infinite objects, people, and achievements to pursue. The lonely mind keeps knocking on one door after another—a college degree, a new job, a new relationship, or even the next life—hoping for fulfillment. However, this constant seeking only leads to repeated disappointment. The speaker explains that the world cannot fulfill these expectations. The realization that the world is not there to fulfill one's expectations is a crucial turning point. When this happens, the world as a source of hope collapses, and so does the fragmented self that was dependent on it. This is the moment one realizes they are solely responsible for their own state, which is the state of aloneness. Aloneness is the understanding that "I alone am responsible," and ultimately, "I alone am." Acharya Prashant emphasizes that loneliness and aloneness are not opposites but exist in different dimensions. Loneliness is dualistic, involving a relationship between "me" and "the world." In contrast, aloneness is non-dualistic. Loneliness craves aloneness, but aloneness is the death of loneliness. This is why the lonely mind, while seeking aloneness, also has a stake in preserving itself and thus remains lonely. The movement from loneliness to aloneness occurs when one realizes that the world cannot provide fulfillment. In this state of aloneness, one is alright with oneself, and the need for external validation or completion ceases.