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The great urge to impress others || Acharya Prashant (2020)
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Impressing Others
Attention Seeking
Ego
Self-Worth
Motive
Selfless Work
Validation
Self-Respect
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that wanting to impress others means wanting to impact their minds and leave an imprint on them. He distinguishes between two reasons for this urge. The problematic reason, which accounts for 99% of attention-seeking behavior, is to create an impression so that one's own ego feels pampered and bloated. This is for the gratification of one's ego, which is why it is a problem. The other, beneficial reason is to influence others in a way that is truly beneficial for them, rather than for one's own self-interest. The speaker elaborates that the problematic urge to impress others stems from a lack of self-worth and not being convinced of who one is. In this state, one seeks ratification from others to feel secure. However, this method is futile because the admiration received is for a manufactured image and cannot provide genuine self-respect. Conversely, great figures in history have also created impressions, but their objective was to help others by molding their thoughts and beliefs for their benefit. They approached others with inner assurance and completeness, wanting nothing but the other's welfare. Acharya Prashant advises that the fundamental question is not whether to impress others, but *why* one wants to do so. If the motive is to gain self-worth through others' admiration, it will not work. A better approach is to engage in selfless work. Even if such work begins with a desire for respect, the very process of carrying out the act purifies the mind, and the desire to gain appreciation in return either vanishes or is greatly reduced. Therefore, one should focus on how to positively impact the lives of others, approaching them with inner completeness and a desire for their welfare, rather than with the motive to extract something from them.