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घरवालों की उम्मीदें पूरी न कर पाएँ तो || आचार्य प्रशांत (2019)
आचार्य प्रशांत
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6 years ago
Love
Expectations
Investment
Relationships
Selfishness
Business
Family Dynamics
Discernment
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a question regarding family expectations and the resulting guilt when one cannot fulfill them. He explains that what is often perceived as parental love is frequently a form of investment or a business transaction. Parents invest money, emotions, and effort into a child with the unspoken expectation of a future return, whether financial, emotional, or social. When the child reaches adulthood and fails to provide this return, the parents feel cheated and begin to treat the child as an outsider. Acharya Prashant points out that the child's distress often stems from the loss of comfort and approval they were accustomed to, rather than genuine concern for the parents' suffering. He distinguishes between two types of relationships: business-like and spiritual. In a business-like relationship, which characterizes most family dynamics, the rule is reciprocity—one must return what has been taken. He suggests that if a relationship is transactional, one should honestly acknowledge it and repay the 'debt' fully. However, true love is unconditional and does not keep accounts. The problem arises when people confuse the two, applying business rules to love by expecting returns, or bringing emotional ambiguity into business matters. He advises the questioner to develop the discernment to recognize the true nature of their relationships and to act according to the appropriate principles of either fair exchange or selfless giving.