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Trying to fulfill others' expectations? || AP Neem Candies
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Expectations
Peace
Absolute
Truth
Real Nature
Disappointment
Slavery
Standards
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that it is alright to have expectations from oneself or from others, but the only right expectation is that you or the other person will move towards peace, silence, and truth. If this specific expectation is not fulfilled, one is entitled to feel disappointed and guilty. However, if the expectation is anything else, one should question why they are promoting or subscribing to it. He reiterates that the only expectation to hold is that oneself and others will move more and more towards peace. If this expectation is belied, then one is justified in feeling betrayed. The speaker advises against burdening oneself with miscellaneous expectations, stating that you are not obliged to live up to anyone's standards, not even your own. The only true obligation is to adhere to the standards of the Absolute. All other standards are personal, whether they originate from an individual or are socially accepted. He describes two types of people: those who live by others' expectations, calling them 'social slaves', and those who live by their own personal benchmarks. He asserts that the second type is in deeper slavery than the first, explaining that while living by others' thoughts is bad, living by your own is worse. Ultimately, the only question to ask oneself is, 'Am I alright? Am I peaceful?' If the mind is peaceful and the sight is clear, then you are alright and should expect no more. The speaker concludes by advising to expect yourself to live in your innocent, naked, real nature and not to measure yourself against any other criteria or benchmark.