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"सर, लड़कियाँ आक्रामक लड़के ही क्यों चुनती हैं?" || आचार्य प्रशांत (2024)
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Self-observation
Attraction
Ego
Lust
Jealousy
Wisdom
Kabir Saheb
Spirituality
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a student's observation that women are often attracted to 'bad' or 'dominant' men who exhibit inhuman behavior, rather than choosing 'right' or 'normal' individuals. He challenges the questioner to look inward and examine the source of this observation, suggesting that what one perceives as a problem in others is often a reflection of one's own internal state. He explains that humans often act out of deep-seated tendencies like lust and jealousy without understanding the underlying drivers of their behavior. When someone else is chosen over us, we naturally tend to label the chosen person as inferior or 'bad' to protect our own ego. Acharya Prashant emphasizes that in the realm of wisdom and spirituality, labels like 'good' and 'bad' or 'right' and 'wrong' hold little meaning. The real question is whether one possesses understanding and realization. He points out that the questioner's focus on the choices of others might stem from a sense of personal lack or hidden desire. He defines true observation not as staring at the world with a purpose or motive, but as self-observation. Observing with a motive is akin to targeting a prey rather than seeking truth. He advises the student to clean his own vision first, as selfish eyes can never see impartially. Finally, Acharya Prashant suggests that instead of complaining about 'misguided' women or 'bad' men, one should strive to build a bridge and communicate with them in a language they understand. He notes that a wise person adapts their communication style to the audience to be effective. He concludes by quoting Kabir Saheb, highlighting that those driven by lust, anger, and greed cannot truly devote themselves to the truth. True bravery lies in fighting for liberation and losing one's ego, rather than harboring resentment over worldly attractions.