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माता-पिता से वास्तव में प्रेम है? || आचार्य प्रशांत, युवाओं के संग (2014)
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Relationships
Love
Parents
Expectations
Facts
Mind
Unconditional Love
Society
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Acharya Prashant addresses the question of whether parents' love is truly unconditional. He begins by stating that the issue is not about agreeing or disagreeing with a statement, but about examining the facts, much like in science. In science, personal opinions are irrelevant; one must look at the facts to understand what is truly happening. Similarly, to understand life and relationships, one must look at the facts of the situation, not what one wants to believe. The speaker explains that the quality of any action or relationship is determined by the quality of the mind from which it originates. A person who is fearful, anxious, doubtful, worried about the future, or easily angered cannot have loving relationships. A violent mind cannot produce a loving relationship. He gives the example of a person who does everything for profit; such a person will also seek profit in their relationships. They will marry for dowry, have children with a plan for future support, and their relationships will be transactional. He points out that what we find in our relationships, whether with parents or friends, is rarely unconditional. It is often based on hidden expectations. When these expectations are broken, the relationship itself breaks. For instance, a parent might disown a child for marrying against their wishes, saying, "You are no longer my son." This reveals the conditional nature of their love. The speaker highlights the prevalence of honor killings and female foeticide as extreme examples of this transactional mindset, where children are seen as property. He mentions the sad statistic that in many parts of India, the last-born child in a family is overwhelmingly male, indicating that girls were aborted until a boy was born, all for profit and security. Acharya Prashant concludes that if one truly has love, they will first accept the fact that relationships are often based on transactions and expectations, like a business. Love does not shy away from the truth. The language of love is to first see the darkness and then work to change it. It is a great disservice to pretend that relationships are unconditional when they are not. If one has love, they will have the courage to face the truth and say, "If you are doing all this for me, please don't, because I know you wanted a clean life for yourself." This honesty is the foundation of a new, genuine relationship.