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'बेबी-बेबी' वाला प्यार || आचार्य प्रशांत (2020)
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Baby Talk
Love
Relationship
Maturity
Consciousness
Selfishness
Shri Krishna
Mental Degradation
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses the question of why people in love use baby language. He explains that the reason is straightforward. A "baby" is a child, a being with very little consciousness and understanding. A baby is essentially a body, a being with no understanding but a soft, delicate body with soft skin and feet. He then explains that there are two kinds of love. One is where you help the other person grow from small to big, from a child to a mature person. The other kind is where you bring a mature adult down to the level of a child. If your desire in a relationship is that the other person doesn't show too much intelligence, you would want them to remain immature. This is because if they become too smart, your own selfish plans will be thwarted. You want to keep them immature, and keeping them immature means making them a "baby." The speaker states that a baby is just a body, a physical form. A baby has no intelligence, no awareness, and cannot refuse anything. You can pick them up, make a fool of them, put anything in their mouth, or take off their clothes, and they cannot refuse. So, when someone calls their partner "baby," they are essentially calling them a fool. It is a way to keep the other person in a state of mental degradation for one's own selfish interests. He warns that this is not a cute or innocent act but a very dangerous and poisonous thing. One should be wary if someone in a relationship repeatedly calls them a "baby." Their intention is your mental degradation; they want to keep you mentally suppressed. He advises finding a partner who helps you grow mentally, not one who turns you into a four-year-old. When someone becomes a four-year-old, they become very lovable to you. The speaker then draws a parallel with how society treats great figures like Maharana Pratap or Shri Krishna. Their childhood acts are celebrated more than their mature deeds because their mature selves are threatening. The Gita, which Shri Krishna gave as a mature adult, is dangerous, so people prefer to focus on the child Krishna. He concludes that true love is when the other's well-being and progress become more important than your own comfort and self-interest. True love is when you become big enough to say that the other is bigger. But in reality, love often means making the other person a baby, which is essentially making them a fool.