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Suffering under peer pressure? || Acharya Prashant, with IIT Bombay (2022)
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Fear of Judgment
Peer Pressure
Ego-Mind
Animal Activism
Change
Social Circle
Courage
Diet and Mind
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a questioner who wants to pursue animal activism but is held back by the fear of being judged and ostracized by his friends and family. The speaker explains that this dilemma reveals the typical nature of the ego-mind, which desires to change things while wanting its surrounding environment to remain unchanged. He describes the questioner's social circle of friends, family, and peers as a structure with the current, non-activist self at its center. The desire to become an activist is a desire to change this center, but the fear of judgment shows a simultaneous desire to keep the surrounding social structure intact, which is a fundamental contradiction. The speaker points out that if one truly wants to change, wanting the environment to remain the same is a conspiracy against that change. He questions the quality of a social circle that would mock or jeer at a worthy cause, suggesting that if these people instill fear for standing up for something valuable, one must question the need to retain them. He emphasizes that one cannot open up about worthy topics in front of people who are aversive to them. Acharya Prashant advises that everything has a right place. He uses the analogy of not planting a precious sapling in a desert but instead searching for fertile ground. Similarly, one must find the right place and receptive people for their worthy thoughts, ideas, and actions. He encourages the questioner to show courage and move out of a limiting circle if the cause is truly worth it. In response to a subsequent question about the link between diet and mind, he clarifies that the connection is the other way around: the mind decides the diet. Therefore, one's diet is a choice that reflects the state of their mind, and it can be used as a tool to know oneself.