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Partner left. How to deal with the void? || Acharya Prashant, at DTU (2023)
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Attraction
Consciousness
Personal Growth
Love
Void
Maturity
Relationship
Freedom
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question about a persistent void felt after a failed love affair. He begins by explaining the practical dynamics of attraction, stating that individuals are not attracted to just anyone, but to those who are at a similar level of consciousness. He posits that every person operates within a specific mental range, and the object of their attraction must fall within this range. If someone is perceived as far below or far above one's own station, attraction will not occur. This is compared to envy, which is typically felt towards peers within one's range, not towards those who are vastly superior. Applying this concept to the questioner's situation, Acharya Prashant's primary advice is to "raise yourself." He explains that as long as the desired person remains within the questioner's "range of acceptability," the hope of being with her will persist, making it impossible to eliminate the feeling of void. The fundamental purpose of life, he asserts, is the elevation of consciousness. The goal is to improve oneself to such an extent that the person one currently pines for naturally falls below one's new range of attraction, at which point the attraction will cease to exist. The speaker likens this personal development to outgrowing childhood toys; what is cherished at one stage of maturity is left behind as one grows. This progression, he states, is the essence of life. He encourages the questioner to rise and move on, questioning how one can remain attracted to the same person if genuine growth is occurring. He critiques the cultural idea of lifelong commitment to one person as a sign of stagnation, emphasizing that people grow at different rates and in different directions, and it is natural to outgrow a partner. Ultimately, Acharya Prashant defines true love not as clinginess or holding someone to a past promise, but as granting the other person the freedom to live their own life. He suggests that outgrowing a partner can be an act of maturity and compassion. He advises the questioner to stop sticking to a mere person and instead stick to greatness, to truth, and to a higher purpose. The way forward is to set the other person free and focus on one's own inner elevation.