Acharya Prashant discusses a Zen koan about the master Gudo and a man named Mu Nan. Gudo helps a family troubled by the husband's gambling and drinking by providing wine and food, then meditating. Upon waking, the husband is ashamed and listens to Gudo's teaching on the impermanence and brevity of life. Gudo advises the man to stop his destructive habits and care for his family. However, the man decides to follow Gudo for the rest of his life, despite Gudo repeatedly telling him to return home. Acharya Prashant explains that Gudo gave the best possible advice for the man's situation, which was to remain with his family and live responsibly. The decision to follow the master was the man's own private, inner urge, which Gudo neither suggested nor commanded. Acharya Prashant emphasizes that a teacher provides the necessary guidance for a person to live without suffering, but the ultimate decision of spiritual devotion must come from the individual's own heart. He clarifies that spiritual love is a private matter that does not require the teacher's permission or suggestion. While a teacher can awaken one's individuality, that individuality must act on its own once awakened. He notes that Gudo did not need a companion and would not have been offended if the man had stayed home. The teacher's role is to give what is needed and then leave the individual to make their own final declaration of love or commitment. Acharya Prashant concludes that while one can be taught good behavior and meditation, love cannot be taught; it must be realized and decided upon by the individual alone.