Acharya Prashant explains that trauma is not an objective entity but is relative to the individual experiencing it. He states, "Trauma is to you, and trauma is big to you." By itself, trauma is just a fact or an event that carries no inherent meaning; the meaning is assigned by the individual who is attending to it. Therefore, one does not need to heal from trauma but rather forget it. This is achieved by looking in the right direction and filling the mind with the right things, which will crowd out and eject the trauma. If a person remains the same individual to whom the trauma occurred, the trauma will persist as a continuous event because the person themselves is continuous. Acharya Prashant asserts that no one can simply attend to the past, resolve it, and emerge from it. The only way forward is to outgrow the past, to walk past it. This is not a resolution but a transcendence, which occurs when one has a new destination and can no longer afford to remain stuck. When the questioner asks if this means changing one's song, the speaker replies that if the song were truly beautiful, it would not have led to trauma; a song should bring delight, not pain. Pain is not an accident but a compulsory and inevitable reflection of who one is at a particular point in time. The only way to overcome this pain is to come out of the self that experienced it. One must not remain the person who received the trauma. The speaker describes the mark of inner growth and maturity as the inability to relate to one's past self, looking at one's younger self as a different person. When you can look back and say, "She was so stupid," it signifies that you have outgrown the past and its trauma, as you now have more important things to attend to.
