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How can I get self-confidence? || Acharya Prashant (2015)
Acharya Prashant
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Confidence
Fear
Fearlessness
Ego
Identity
Witnessing
Conditioning
Self-concept
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that human beings do not actually need self-confidence for the natural functions of living, such as walking, eating, or breathing. He argues that confidence is an irrelevant concept in nature, as trees and animals simply exist without it. The search for confidence is merely an indication that one has gathered fear or motives that require an antidote. Confidence is a mental activity used to counter the thought that one can be harmed, but it is ultimately a superficial and fake imposition. Because the 'I' or the ego is inherently fragile and vulnerable, any confidence built upon it is destined to fail, while fear remains honest and persistent. He further clarifies that fearlessness is not the same as confidence. In fearlessness, the presence of a fearful object does not weigh upon the mind, and there is no need for special mental armor. The speaker posits that as long as one's identity is tied to destructible things like career success, physical beauty, or wealth, fear is inevitable. True transformation requires the emptying of the mind rather than the gathering of more thoughts or 'confidence' from external sources. He warns that trying to change one's self-concept through thought is just another trick of the ego, which remains the same 'I' under a different disguise. Acharya Prashant suggests that real change occurs only when one realizes their own incapacity to change through effort. He introduces the concept of witnessing as a non-doing state that is distinct from the habitual patterns of the ego. Witnessing is not a task to be added to a to-do list or practiced at a specific time; it is a natural, effortless awareness that happens alongside daily activities. By simply observing the movements and tricks of the 'I' without trying to intervene, one separates from the fake identity. This shift in perspective allows for a profound transformation that is not driven by the ego's desires but by a deeper, unknowable center of being.