Acharya Prashant addresses the difficulty of remembering that the 'I' is the root of suffering, especially when one tends to blame external factors. He explains that it is not always easy to discount the culpability of others. For instance, if a violent person throws a stone at you and you bleed, it is very difficult to conclude that your suffering is entirely your own doing. Intellectually, you might argue that the stone only hit the body and it was your choice to let the pain turn into suffering. While this is a good intellectual position, you will still feel that the other person had no business hitting you. This is where the role of responsibility appears. Wisdom lies in seeing that everything is connected. Even if you are not directly responsible for the violent person's conduct, you still have a responsibility to reform them. When you take on this responsibility, the tendency to feel aggrieved weakens. There is a psychological aspect to this: when you feel hurt, you make the other person significant. For example, if a child hits you, you don't feel hurt because you are mentally bigger. However, if a stranger hurts you, you feel hurt, and in doing so, you have made the stranger a big fellow. Acharya Prashant presents three scenarios. First, if someone attacks you and you fight back, you are equals. Second, if someone attacks you and you recoil in hurt, you become smaller and the other becomes bigger. Third, if someone attacks you and you realize they must be in deep pain to act this way, and you try to reform them, you become bigger and they become smaller. He advises choosing your response carefully. If you cannot fully accept that all suffering is self-created, the next best thing is to take responsibility for the one causing the suffering. Their hurtful action is a cry for help, a communication of their own bad situation. Spiritual responsibility, which is love, is to especially reach out to the one who has caused you hurt. By doing this, you are the first to benefit, as it elevates you and diminishes your own hurt.