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How to deal with emotional outbursts? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2016)
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Emotional Outbursts
Mind
Suppression
Awareness
Conditioning
Disturbance
Victimization
Fear
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that the desire to deal with emotional outbursts is a desire for movement from one place to another, from a state of emotional outbursts (place A) to a state of settled living (place B). He states that this journey is a fundamental aspect of human existence; man is a traveler, rarely content with where he is, and always wanting to undertake a journey to somewhere else. When we are in a state of emotional vulnerability, which is a place of suffering and complications, a desire arises to be somewhere else because we do not like where we are. The speaker points out a critical flaw in this approach: when we are in a state of emotional instability (place A), we do not truly know what a settled life (place B) is. We can only imagine it, and this imagination is merely the opposite of our current state. For instance, if we are unstable, we imagine stability. However, the opposite of a thing is always related to and defined by that thing, so it cannot offer true freedom. Instead of trying to reach an imagined destination, it is more prudent to investigate and understand our current situation, place A. If one can fully know where one is, the need to imagine and jump to another place becomes irrelevant, and the solution will reveal itself. Delving into the nature of our current state, Acharya Prashant describes us as mind-body beings. The mind is a collection of influences and experiences, shaped by its environment and the company it keeps. If we are emotionally vulnerable, it is often because we are surrounded by similarly vulnerable people, creating a downward spiral of disturbance. The body also contributes to this disturbance through its various ailments. Spirituality is about real life, and in real life, the body plays a significant role. The speaker identifies suppression as a key factor leading to emotional outbursts. We suppress our emotions out of a belief that the world is a hostile place and a fear of repercussions, judgment, or harm if we express our true feelings. We don't even confess our true state to ourselves, instead pretending that everything is alright. This suppressed pressure eventually builds up and results in an explosion. This outburst is the reality, while the preceding calmness was merely a facade. The solution, therefore, is not to treat the symptom—the outburst—but to understand the entire process that leads to it, with an emphasis on knowing the situation rather than seeking a quick fix.