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Wasting life on an unworthy person? || Acharya Prashant, archives (2020)
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Self-responsibility
Truth
Meanness
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Acharya Prashant addresses a woman's inability to leave a dishonest partner by using an analogy. He states that if you keep a dog, you will have to go to the meat market, and it makes no sense to complain about the chaos of the market because your presence there is your own choice. As long as you stick to the dog, you must stick to the meat market. He advises the questioner to investigate what within her craves meanness, rather than focusing on the so-called mean person. He questions how she could be with a mean person for eight years, asserting that only meanness is attracted to meanness. He also challenges her concept of loyalty, stating that loyalty should be reserved for the highest, not offered to a random, unworthy person, which he calls foolishness. The speaker explains that only Truth is worth being committed to, questioning how one can afford to be committed to a mere person and whether that person truly represents the Truth. He distinguishes between material loyalty, which is a transaction, and inner loyalty. He criticizes being inwardly committed to an average person and then expecting them to be extraordinary, comparing it to expecting an elephant to fly. The fault, he says, lies not with the elephant but with the one who has misplaced expectations. He suggests that being cheated in love stems from not having anything better to do with one's life and clinging to a person out of loneliness or cultural conditioning. He argues that it is a fallacy that a special person is necessary for life, especially in the modern world where physical survival and security are not dependent on a partner. The primary need is something else, and it is one's own responsibility to fill one's life with beauty, wellness, and goodness. If one fails to do this, one will be forced to fill the void with some kind of rubbish, which often takes the form of a person. He urges the questioner to understand that the responsibility to bring goodness into her life rests primarily upon her, not someone else. Instead of investing years in an unworthy person, one should invest in a cause, such as one's own development.