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Too concerned with others' opinions? || Acharya Prashant, with IIT-Ropar (2022)
Shakti
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1 year ago
Social Validation
Ego
Company
Consciousness
Discretion
Greatness
Feedback
Self-improvement
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses the common human tendency to seek social validation, particularly from peers and family. He argues that the problem is not the act of seeking validation itself, but rather the quality of the people from whom one seeks it. He uses the analogy of a tennis player asking a grocer for technical advice to illustrate that seeking validation from those who lack expertise or a higher level of consciousness is futile. If one needs feedback, one should approach a 'coach' or a 'life teacher'—someone who possesses genuine worth and knowledge. He emphasizes that peers are often just as confused as the individual seeking their approval, making their judgments irrelevant. The speaker suggests that the central issue is a lack of 'high company.' He advises that if worthy living mentors are unavailable, one should turn to the wisdom of great figures like Swami Vivekananda through books. He explains that while the ultimate goal is to develop a strong internal light that requires no external validation, this level of freedom takes time. In the interim, one must be discreet and selective about whose opinions to value. He warns that the collective laughter or praise of a crowd can easily overwhelm one's discretion, leading to a surrender of the self to the 'majority.' Acharya Prashant challenges the notion that one must remain in the company of 'fools' simply because they are present. He asserts that if one chooses to enjoy the pleasure of such company, one must also bear the suffering of their opinions. He points out that the ego often finds comfort in lazy or wrong company, and this internal ego must be challenged. To overcome the need for superficial validation, one must cultivate a 'mad love towards greatness' and a constant desire for self-improvement. By focusing on an upward ascent and seeking greatness, an individual naturally becomes unable to tolerate the company of those who do not contribute to their growth.