Acharya Prashant addresses the challenge of finding a balance between love and the transactional nature of relationships. He explains that the right path lies between two ego-driven extremes. The first extreme is the tendency to constantly try to change others. This desire often stems not from genuine concern but from a need to boost one's own ego and establish a 'zone of influence.' The speaker advises questioning whether this attempt to change the other is for their benefit or for one's own. He points out that if the other person's weakness is secretly beneficial to one's ego, then the motive is not love. The second extreme is to not try to change others at all. This inaction can also be ego-driven, rooted in indifference, laziness, or fear. One might avoid confronting an issue not out of acceptance, but because it requires effort or because one fears the other's reaction. This is not love but a way to preserve one's own comfort and avoid conflict. Both these extremes, of wanting to change everyone and not wanting to change anyone, are manifestations of the ego. The speaker clarifies that there is no formula for how much to intervene in another's life. The guiding principle is to be honest with oneself about one's motives. The less self-interest involved, the better. He explains that time for oneself and time for others are not mutually exclusive; one who loves oneself will naturally value others. The hallmark of a correct action is that it benefits everyone involved, including oneself. If one finds oneself needing to calculate gains and losses, it is a sign that the action is not coming from a place of love but from self-interest.