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Dealing with a Cheating Partner: Tips for Moving Forward || Acharya Prashant, NIT-Trichy (2024)
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Cheating
Relationship
Commitment
Marriage
Body
Consciousness
Freedom
Loyalty
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question about what to do when a partner is cheating and when to stop putting effort into a relationship. He begins by questioning the very definition of cheating, suggesting it implies something inauspicious, harmful, and unethical. He probes the questioner to define the commitment that is being broken, leading to the understanding that cheating, in this context, refers to physical intimacy with someone else, which violates the romantic commitment made between partners. Acharya Prashant then critiques the foundation of a marriage or relationship that is based solely on the body. He argues that such a relationship is inherently flawed and bound to suffer from cheating. This, he explains, is the punishment for not understanding the nature of our social institutions. He states that a marriage founded on the body is a shaky foundation because sex is not merely physical; it involves non-physical aspects as well. For instance, he questions whether married people watching pornography or enjoying an actor's body on screen also constitutes cheating. He points out that everyone cheats all the time in some form, but some forms are more tolerable than others. He elaborates that the body, by its animal nature, wants to have as many partners as possible, a command from Mother Nature (Prakriti). In contrast, social institutions like marriage demand monogamy. This conflict between our natural, beastly origins and social constructs is the root of the problem. If a marriage is based only on sex, it is a beastly affair. The speaker asserts that the deepest human need is not sexual but the fulfillment of consciousness, which is freedom and liberation. When a relationship is based on love, friendship, and the mutual upliftment of consciousness, the partners will have fewer reasons to look elsewhere. In such a relationship, physical attraction to another person becomes a minor issue, as physicality constitutes only a small part of the bond. True loyalty, he concludes, is spiritual and arises from freedom, not from restrictions.