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बहन-बेटी की शादी कराने की इतनी आतुरता? || आचार्य प्रशांत (2019)
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Marriage
Women's Empowerment
Patriarchy
Education
Independence
Family Pressure
Freud
Upanishads
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Acharya Prashant observes that no one comes to him with the concern of educating their sister or making her self-reliant and free. Instead, the common problem presented is the sister's marriage. He questions this urgency, suggesting that one should first ask the sister about her wishes, as marriage is her personal matter. He criticizes the forceful nature of arranged marriages, where a woman is tied to someone and expected to consummate the marriage. He advises that the money intended for the wedding should be spent on the sister's education, which would help her get a job and become independent. The speaker questions the brother's authority and expertise in choosing a groom for his sister, asking if a girl's perspective in selecting a boy isn't better than a boy's. He finds it strange that a woman can be a doctor, engineer, lawyer, or sportsperson, managing all aspects of her life, yet is considered incapable of arranging her own marriage. For this specific task, a brother emerges to take charge. He points out that a woman can be a scientist or a lawyer, excelling in the highest professions, but is deemed helpless when it comes to her own marriage, for which her father and brother stand up. Acharya Prashant expresses suspicion about the special interest a father and brother take in a woman's marriage, suggesting the matter seems dubious and has something wrong with it. He mentions that he would have to ask Freud about the meaning of two men showing such keen interest in a woman's marriage, implying that the matter is sexual. He advises the questioner to focus on his own liberation and let the girl breathe freely, as she will find her own way. He suggests telling the parents to now focus on religious and spiritual matters, as their time for dealing with marriage and children has passed. He finds it strange that 60-year-olds show more excitement about weddings than 25-year-olds, getting a thrill from the mere mention of the word 'marriage'. He describes the two lives of a modern working woman: at the office, she might be a capable manager with subordinates, handling clients from all over the world, but at home, she becomes a helpless girl pressured by her mother about marriage. He criticizes the hypocrisy of families who won't send their daughters 200 kilometers away for education, citing safety concerns, but are ready to marry them off 2000 kilometers away. He points out that in a university hostel, she would be safe with a guard, but where she is married off, there is no guard, only a 'bodyguard'. When the sister calls for help, the brother tells her to adjust, as that is now her home. He concludes by questioning why people become obstacles in others' lives when they cannot take full responsibility for the consequences of their actions.