A questioner shares his story of a painful divorce due to his wife's infidelity and his subsequent introspection after listening to Acharya Prashant's videos. He realized that his choice of partner was a reflection of his own inner self, and asks if this understanding is correct and what to do in such situations. Acharya Prashant explains that the pain one feels is not primarily from the external person but from the person within who made that choice. He advises that one needs to "divorce" this inner self, the ego. This inner self is what creates situations where one gathers such people around them. All the people in one's lifeтАФfriends, colleagues, and spouseтАФare a result of one's own choices, which are made by this inner self. If one does not divorce this inner self, it will continue to make similar choices, leading to repeated suffering. The speaker emphasizes that if a relationship is causing pain and mental disturbance, it is a sign of a fundamental mistake in one's choice. Instead of blaming the other person, one must question why they invited that person into their life. The other person was always the way they were; the fault lies in not seeing it due to attachment and lust, which blind a person. One must ask, "Why did I marry an animal?" The animal-like nature was present before marriage, but it wasn't seen. Acharya Prashant concludes by advising to have an important goal in life, something more attractive than ordinary squabbles. Life is about moving forward continuously, not getting entangled in the knots of the past. When a mistake is realized, one should immediately leave it and move on. Don't waste time on worthless things, because the flight to death can depart at any time. The first question to ask when hurt or insulted is, "What weakness, greed, or unconsciousness in me brought me to this situation?" The real divorce is from the ego.
