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Toxic Relationships: How to Identify and Avoid || Acharya Prashant, Bangalore Open Session (2025)
Shakti
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10 months ago
Self-knowledge
Ego
Relationships
Self-preservation
Desire
Suffering
Liberation
Prakrti
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that the quality of one's relationships is a direct reflection of the quality of one's own self. If an individual's self-concept is rooted in pettiness, they cannot choose a great partner because greatness would naturally threaten and dissolve that pettiness. He points out that the ego, driven by self-preservation, seeks relationships that fulfill existing desires and fit into pre-established plans rather than those that challenge or transform the self. Consequently, many relationships become a repetitive game of desire that perpetuates suffering because they are based on a blind, primitive hunger rather than true understanding. He emphasizes that the failure of relationships often stems from a lack of self-knowledge and the presence of an internal void that people desperately try to fill with others. This leads to a cycle of violence and disappointment, as both parties carry similar expectations that neither can fulfill. Acharya Prashant suggests that true relationship requires being real with oneself first. He encourages individuals to engage in self-knowledge to understand the one who is seeking the relationship. When one is in contact with their true self, they can enter relationships effortlessly and without desperation or arbitrary deadlines. Regarding workplace politics and family friction, Acharya Prashant advises that the sufferer must take responsibility for their own liberation. He states that anger and frustration can be constructive if they arise from a right center and are expressed to challenge environments that are anti-life or anti-freedom. He warns against staying in monstrous or unchanging situations just for the sake of comfort and security. If honest efforts to improve a situation or relationship fail, one must have the courage to move on rather than accepting a life of bondage and stagnation.