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Parents, apologize to your children! || Acharya Prashant (2019)
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Parenthood
Procreation
Indiscretion
Compensation
Liberation
Justice
Debt
Suffering
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses the question of what parents should say if their child asks, "Why did you give me birth?" He states that parents must straight away apologize. He explains that this is not a laughing matter but an issue of basic honesty, as parents have committed the mistake of bringing another person into a world of agony, longing, and suffering. The speaker elaborates that parents compensate for this initial mistake by investing in raising the child, providing education, food, and money. This is not a favor but a form of compensation and a matter of justice. The parents owe this to the child, who is justified in questioning their birth, as they never sent a formal application to be born. The birth is described as a result of the parents' personal wisdom, planned indiscretion, or unplanned lust. The child could metaphorically sue for damages, and all resources spent on them are compensation for the parents' moment of indiscretion. Acharya Prashant characterizes giving birth as a crime because it introduces suffering where there was none. He asserts that existence penalizes parents for this act, citing the mother's nine-month pregnancy as a severe penalty. Whether the birth was planned or unplanned, it remains an indiscretion. The speaker inverts the classical concept of a child's debt to their parents (matru-rin, pitru-rin), stating that it is the parents who are deeply indebted to the child. Giving birth is not a casual affair but the act of incurring a huge debt that the parents must settle. The ultimate duty, or dharma, of parents is to provide the child with an environment that enables their liberation from bodily and social identification. This is not a favor but a fundamental obligation. The speaker notes that procreation is surrounded by a social myth and that people fall for stories rather than understanding the reality of what it means to bring a child into the world. He concludes that most people are not mentally mature enough to be parents, and the few who are would likely never choose to give birth.