Acharya Prashant explains that if one had been completely broken from the inside, there would be nobody left to experience the hurt. He states that what one calls 'the inside' is just the ego, which is a magical thing that becomes stronger when it gets hurt. The more you hurt it, the more strength it gathers. After a breakup, the ego has only become more cemented and solidified. If one were truly empty from the inside, who would have received the hurt? The speaker uses the analogy of an arrow, which hits you only when you block it; otherwise, it passes you by. You are hurt because you do not like what is happening, and it is your resistance that is hurting you. The speaker questions the act of pursuing someone who has moved on, asking if one wants 'crumbs of love' or love as 'donation, charity'. He points out that if the person was so dear, there must have been a lack of compatibility for the breakup to happen. If you remain who you are and he is who he is, the breakup will happen again. You insist on remaining who you are, which is why you are hurt and why you want the person back. However, if you insist on remaining who you are, you will not be able to retain him. To end the misery, one must stop being who they are. Ultimately, one does not want a person so that they may cause disturbance; one wants a person to find peace and contentment. Relationships are a medium, while contentment is the end. A relationship must lead to and contain contentment. If there is no contentment in the relationship, it is not worth having. The quality of your love depends on the quality of your life. A sublime love affair or a fairy-tale romance cannot come from a life that is mired in littleness, fear, ambition, and suspicion.
