Acharya Prashant explains that desire means you are not alright with yourself and want something else to happen. Consequently, we are not living for ourselves as we are, but rather living to change ourselves. If one were truly living for oneself as one is, there would be no desire for change, such as wanting a bigger car, respect, or a beautiful partner. Instead, we live for a "better self." We are all, therefore, desirous of a better self, a better you. The speaker illustrates this with an analogy. The current self is like a corrupt, hostile, and stupid servant whom we want to fire. The mistake mankind makes is asking this same flawed servant to recommend a new, better one. This means we want a future, but the vision for that future is defined by our current, inferior self. The new servant, recommended by the old one, will inevitably be even worse—like the old servant's brother, a swindler, or his father, an enemy with a cannon. This is the futile cycle of improvement that humanity is trapped in. We want to get rid of our current stupid condition, but we want a new self as imagined by this same rotten self. We are on a continuous journey of improvement, but it is a flawed one. We fire the situation but not ourselves, the one situated within it. We never have a breakup with ourselves. The speaker suggests having a "final breakup" with oneself. When you fire your current situation, you must also fire the "situated one"—yourself. The fundamental mistake is that we are too attached to ourselves to fire ourselves. To truly change, one must not ask the current self how to change. Instead, one should shut the self down, and then the change begins. To cross over to the "other shore," one must befriend the ferryman, as Kabir Saheb says. This means befriending someone who knows the other shore, someone totally unlike you, which is the Lord or God—the "total alien." Living for the Lord means having the sole purpose of materializing your utmost potential, which is God. Dying for the Lord means being willing to drop everything to realize that potential. Life must be a journey of continuous refinement, which is a process of losing yourself, not adding to yourself. When you are so refined that you disappear, what is left is the presence of God.