Acharya Prashant addresses the difference between self-love and self-obsession by first clarifying the meaning of love itself. He posits that there is a significant difference between pleasing someone and helping someone. To illustrate this, he uses the analogy of a child who constantly asks for sweets. Pleasing the child would mean giving them lots of sweets, which would make them happy momentarily. However, helping the child, which is an act of true love, would involve denying them the sweets for their long-term well-being, even if it displeases them. Giving sweets gratifies the child, while withholding them is what truly helps. Applying this analogy to the self, where the child represents the self, Acharya Prashant explains that self-love is not self-gratification but self-help or self-elevation. He states that in love, one must elevate the other, not merely gratify them. While self-gratification is easier and more attractive, it is fundamentally different from self-elevation. Most relationships, including the one we have with ourselves, are based on a transactional arrangement of mutual gratification: "I'll scratch your back, you scratch mine." This approach, which he calls false love, is what we often prefer because it's easier than the path of self-elevation. He further elaborates that self-gratification only fattens the self, or the ego, whereas self-elevation dissolves the self. Pleasing oneself is not an example of self-love but rather a lack of self-knowledge, as one cannot have self-love without self-knowledge. Real love is tough; it tests, stretches, and breaks. It is likened to a sculptor carving a beautiful statue from a rock, a process that involves the rock suffering many hits to attain its beautiful form. Similarly, real love for oneself or others is not about happiness but about righteousness and elevation. In conclusion, Acharya Prashant defines self-love as an exercise in reduction, not accumulation. It is about giving oneself the highest possible, which is not found in pleasure or happiness. He distinguishes between pleasure, which is carnal gratification, and happiness, which is the fulfillment of a desired image. Both pleasure and happiness leave one craving for more and are not final. True self-love is an act of intelligence that seeks what is best for one's welfare, which is elevation and righteousness, rather than what is merely pleasing.