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Seven-year itch
Love
Relationship
Infatuation
Kabir Saheb
Disillusionment
Unconsciousness
Consciousness
Description

A questioner brings up the psychological concept of the "seven-year itch," which suggests that in married couples, love tends to decrease after seven years, leading to an increase in divorces and extramarital affairs. This is contrasted with a couplet by Kabir Saheb: "The deep love of the wise grows and grows. The shallow love of the ignorant diminishes and diminishes." Acharya Prashant explains that the seven-year itch is not about a fixed timeline; its symptoms might appear in seven years. The underlying issue is infatuation (moha), which reaches a peak and then breaks, leading to disillusionment (moha-bhang). This is like a magic spell that wears off, and when it does, a great deal of hatred arises, similar to the hatred one feels for someone who has fooled them. However, one cannot openly complain about being defrauded because both parties are equally responsible. If you have been deceived, you also consented to it. This leads to a state of inner suffocation, boredom, and restlessness, which manifests as the "seven-year itch." The timeline of seven, two, or ten years is just a median found in research; the core issue is the same. The fundamental reason for this phenomenon is that our relationships are formed in a state of unconsciousness. We mistake an ordinary person for an angel or a fairy. This delusion is hormonal; the body's DNA, eager to propagate, fools the consciousness. Nature is fooling consciousness for its own ancient purpose of reproduction. When the intoxication wears off, the angel is revealed to be an ordinary man, and the fairy is revealed to be an ordinary woman, leading to resentment. Everyone desires the ultimate (the moon) but settles for the ordinary. The "seven-year itch" is the realization of being fooled, but instead of understanding the root of this foolishness, people often seek another person, repeating the same cycle. Acharya Prashant states that relationships are the biggest source of suffering and bondage in a person's life. Therefore, spirituality, which aims for joy and freedom, must address the topic of relationships. He suggests that if you truly want to know someone's reality, have four proper conversations with them, and the truth will be revealed. However, such conversations rarely happen because people are not interested in knowing the truth. The problem is not that one is imprisoned, but the delusion about what that person or thing is. These alliances are by design meant to fail because they are based on delusion.