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जो चाहा था वो मिला नहीं - एक टीस रह गई है || आचार्य प्रशांत, आर.डी.वी.वी. के साथ (2023)
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Regret (Malal)
Purpose of Life
Desire
Worthiness
Gratitude
Rahim Das
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Acharya Prashant addresses the questioner's feeling of regret over unfulfilled desires in life. He begins by questioning the premise, asking if everything one desires is truly worth attaining. He posits that if something is genuinely valuable and remains unattained, then it is right to feel anguish and a longing for it. However, he prompts the questioner to consider whether the things they regret not getting were actually worth having in the first place. The speaker explains that the persistent feeling of regret stems from not having found the one thing that is truly worth attaining. Once that singular, most valuable thing is achieved, all the minor, unfulfilled desires will seem insignificant, even laughable. To illustrate this, he uses an analogy: a person, tired and hungry after a long day's work, falls asleep early. Waking up late at night with hunger, they find all good restaurants closed. They rush to a small, dilapidated eatery at a bus stand, only to find that it has also closed. This leads to a deep sense of regret over not even getting this small thing. This state, he says, is analogous to our current condition of regret. Continuing the analogy, the speaker describes the person walking back home, dejected, and stumbling upon a fine restaurant that is still open. Inside, they not only find excellent food but also meet an old friend. At this point, would they still regret the closure of the small eatery? No, its closure was a blessing in disguise, as it led to a much better experience. The speaker connects this to life, explaining that the regret over small things is a symptom of not having found the one great thing. We desire worthless things, and then feel miserable when we don't get them. If the small eatery had been open, one would have settled for its substandard food and missed the greater opportunity. Similarly, if we get the small things we desire, we might become content and stop seeking what is truly valuable. Acharya Prashant concludes by quoting Rahim Das: "By pursuing one, all is pursued. By pursuing all, all is lost." The solution to the regret over small things is to find the one great thing in life. Once that is found, all small regrets vanish. The problem is not the unfulfilled small desires, but the absence of a great purpose. He advises to identify what is truly important and dedicate oneself to it. When one is immersed in a great work, there is no time or inclination to mourn setbacks or failures, as the joy of the pursuit itself is fulfilling. This is the way to live a life free from the burden of regret and filled with a sense of grace and gratitude.