Acharya Prashant clarifies that the state described by the questioner—feeling disconnected and finding life chaotic—is not the state of a spiritual mind, but rather that of a social mind that is failing to be social. A truly spiritual person does not ask how to adjust to society or maintain cordial relationships, as these are not their priorities. Their center is different. Consequently, they are not much affected by how others relate to them. When one is not concerned with others' reactions, relationships do not sour. He quotes Kabir Saheb: "Kabir stands in the marketplace, wishing well for everyone, having neither friendship nor enmity with anyone." This means a spiritual person may not form strong friendships, but they also won't have strong enmities. A spiritual person does not become asocial but becomes independent of society (samaj-nirpeksh). He uses an analogy: a spiritual person views the world like someone on a train looking at passing fields and crowds—they observe without attachment because their destination is different. The desire to remain social while incorporating a little spirituality leads to a great predicament. He likens this to trying to fit an elephant (spirituality) into a mouse's burrow (one's personality and life). It's an impossible endeavor. The problem arises when we want to maintain our predetermined ways of life and just add a bit of spirituality to them. This results in only the elephant's tail fitting into the burrow, while the mouse inside tries to pull the whole elephant in, getting frustrated when it doesn't work. The truth is, the elephant won't enter the burrow; the mouse must come out. The complaint that life becomes chaotic after spirituality is misguided. Spirituality is like a light; it doesn't create chaos but reveals the chaos that was already present in the darkness of one's life. We are often unaware of the mess in our lives because we live in darkness. Spirituality is not another object to add to a cluttered room; it is the searchlight that exposes the clutter. Spirituality is light (Prakash) and discrimination (Vivek). Light shows you what is what, and discrimination gives you the power to differentiate. Spirituality does not compel you to do anything; the choice to clean up or remain in the dark is yours. If the problem is too much, one can always turn off the light, as the saying goes, "Neither will there be bamboo, nor will the flute play." The issue is not spirituality, but the unwillingness to face the revealed mess.