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एक गलत रिश्ते में फँस गए हैं — अब क्या करें? || आचार्य प्रशांत (2024)
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Expectations
Relationships
Purpose of Life
Imperfection
Acceptance
Imagination
Ego
Kabir Saheb
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question about dealing with complicated and mismatched human relationships. He begins by stating that nothing in the world is perfect, including himself and his surroundings. He questions the utility of crying over imperfections, whether it's about the people in our lives or our own bodies and minds. Instead of dwelling on regrets, he advises to simply do the work. Whatever the situation is, however it is, one should just do the work. He uses the analogy of an imperfect pen that sometimes stops working, explaining that one can either mourn over it or just let it be and focus on the more important task at hand, which is the pursuit of knowledge and liberation, not the search for a perfect pen. He extends this analogy to a worn-out towel and other imperfect objects around him, stating that while he may have had high hopes when he acquired them, he now accepts their state and has moved on. His purpose is not to lament over these small things. Applying this to relationships, he explains that a living person cannot be reformed without their consent. If one has tried and the other person does not want to change, one should let them be, just like the towel, and not let them obstruct one's life's work. He emphasizes that whatever one brings into their life, be it a person or an object, will never fully live up to expectations. Therefore, one should not mourn unfulfilled expectations but move forward with their life's purpose. Acharya Prashant further explains that the imagination that conceives of a better future or an ideal society is a product of the ego and is driven by self-interest. A lion's ideal society would be different from a deer's. He calls such imagination a thought from a sick mind. As one becomes healthier and more at ease, the need to imagine the future diminishes, and one becomes ready to live in an unplanned, unexpected future. He says that people often use the lack of an alternative as an excuse to continue with their wrongdoings. The solution is not to seek a better alternative first, but to immediately stop doing what is wrong. What to do next will become clear in due time, but one must first stop what is currently happening without making excuses or waiting for a perfect alternative.