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ये तीन लक्षण हैं, तो इसे प्रेम नहीं कहते || आचार्य प्रशांत (2023)
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Self-interest
Freedom
Love
Patriarchy
Exploitation
Relationship
Woman's identity
Consciousness
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a woman who, after understanding that she is consciousness before being a woman, questions the societal expectation for women to handle all household chores, even when employed. She shares her personal story of quitting her job due to the dual burden, leading to depression and a feeling of worthlessness. She asks if it is right to step out of this situation. Acharya Prashant begins by establishing a fundamental truth about human nature: people are predominantly selfish. He asks the audience to consider if people in the world are generally selfish or selfless, to which the consensus is selfish. He then extends this logic to family members, arguing that it is a misconception to believe one's own family is an exception, full of selfless individuals. He states that if even a small gesture like giving ₹100 is driven by self-interest, then providing for someone's entire livelihood is certainly not a selfless act. He urges women, in particular, to stop entertaining the romantic illusion that their relationships are based purely on love, devoid of any transaction. He points out that people, especially women, often get lost in emotions and build castles in the air, ignoring the factual basis of their relationships. He explains that this system of dependency is a form of mutual exploitation. The woman, by being financially dependent, is in a bargain where her very soul is at stake. The man, in turn, is made into a beast of burden, toiling his life away to earn for the family, often losing his own joy and vitality in the process. He clarifies that life is a continuous journey of consciousness towards truth and liberation, and events like marriage, having children, or owning a house are merely milestones, not the ultimate destination. He asserts that true, healthy relationships can only exist between two free individuals. When one person's freedom is taken away, their capacity for love is also destroyed. In the current patriarchal system, both men and women end up enslaving each other because ignorance is inherently violent. Regarding the question of stepping out, Acharya Prashant advises that the focus should be on stepping up to a higher vocation or purpose, rather than just leaving a situation. He warns against leaving one set of duties only to do nothing, which would be a regression. He uses the analogy of a government officer who is provided with a house and a driver to be free from lower-level tasks and focus on their important work. Similarly, when one finds a higher calling, lower-level tasks naturally become less of a priority and fall away. If the family is sensible, they will support this pursuit of a higher purpose.