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Why is it so difficult to forgive and forget? || Acharya Prashant (2022)
Shakti
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Vedanta
Wisdom Literature
Self-improvement
Human Consciousness
Internal Growth
Discretion
Freedom
Bondage
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that the inability to move on from past hurts or unworthy people is a clear indicator that one's internal state has not changed. He uses the analogy of checking out of an inferior hotel; one only misses it if they have not found a superior place to stay. Life does not allow for vacuums, so if an individual does not fill their life with better thoughts, people, and causes, they will inevitably return to or miss the previous inferior associations. Moving on is not merely about dropping a person or an episode; it is about evolving from the previous inferior self that made the poor choice in the first place. If the internal self remains the same, the individual will continue to make the same errors in judgment and experience the same suffering. To develop internally, Acharya Prashant emphasizes the importance of wisdom literature, specifically recommending Vedanta. He suggests that the purpose of any relationship should be self-improvement and internal growth. If a relationship does not result in betterment, it is considered unworthy. He warns against self-victimization, noting that blaming another person for being 'bad' only highlights one's own lack of discretion for choosing them. The responsibility lies with the buyer, not the product. Therefore, one must investigate the internal tendencies that lead to wrong choices in professions, locations, or relationships. Ultimately, the speaker defines 'wrong' as anything that impedes one's inner growth or aggravates existing bondages. He advises that every major life decision—whether it be a new job, a relationship, or even a book—should be weighed against a single yardstick: will this lead to greater clarity, freedom, and illumination of the mind? The goal of human consciousness is to be free from bondages, and all associations must be assessed based on whether they contribute to that liberation or further entangle the individual in obligations and confusion.