Inauthenticity is synonymous with dependence, and where there is dependence, there is bound to be fear. Is that not obvious? And where there is dependence, you cannot have loving and healthy relationships, be it with your books, or with your employer, with society in general, with the planet in general, with your spouse, with your kids, with yourself.
If I am alright with myself, if I feel complete with myself, then the nature of my relationship with my daughter would be entirely different. She is not here to give something to me. Instead, I am so alright, so absolutely complete that I can take care of her. The very direction of the traffic reverses. Otherwise, there is exploitation.